shopping list for a husband

A friend of mine has lent me the book Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough by Lori Gottlier, and in the prologue of this book Lori has written her 'Shopping list for a man' - and to all the people who think that I'm too fussy, just check out this list (with my comments in Pink.

• Intelligent - well dah! Of course you want a guy who is at least a little bit smart!
• Kind - once again, isn't that a given?
• Extremely funny - why 'extremely' funny? How about just a little bit funny?
• Curious - what do you mean? As in 'curious about anal sex', I DON'T THINK SO!!
• Loves kids - in a pedophile way? Do you want a husband or a father?
• Financially stable - that would be good. You don't want to have to support him.
• Emotionally stable - naturally.
• Sexy - like Justin Timberlake? I don't think many guys are really that sexy.
• Romantic - that would be appreciated. But my Dad once scraped the ice off my mum's car, so she wouldn't have to do it, and I think that is more Romantic than anything in a fairy tale.
• Passionate - to the extent of doing it in a toilet at the pub? I don't think 'passion' is that important.
• Compassionate - hmm....don't really know about this one.
• Irreverent - that's a big word.
• Intuitive - how about psychic?
• Generous - considering how used I am to being spoilt, I'm going to say that this would be a good quality.
• Same religion but not too religious - I just want someone who is open about religion and not in a cult all kinds of brain-washed!
• Optimistic but not naive - just asking for too much.
• Ambitious but not a workaholic - once again, asking too much.
• Talented but humble - I'm thinking a saint would be more likely!
• Warm but not clingy - I thought she wanted someone who is passionate!
• Grounded but not boring - grounded?
• Soulful but not new-agey - what about religion?
• Vulnerable but not weak - are you serious!
• Quirky but not weird - no comment.
• Free-spirited but responsible - how about someone who wears flowers in his hair?
• Charismatic by genuine - kind of like James Bond.
• Strong but sensitive - like He-Man I'm thinking.
• Athletic but not a sports nut - what if he was one of those hot soccer players?
• Open-minded but has conviction - does this really need to be on the list?
• Decisive but not bossy - personally I kind of like it when a guy tells me what to do!
• Mature but not old - how about 'young at heart, but not young'.
• Creative but not an artist - creative how? Embroiders his own pillows?
• Supportive of my dreams and goals - this one is ok.
• Has a sense of wonderment about the world - WHAT??
• Is close to my age (shares my cultural references) - the cultural references thing makes sense.
• Good listener and communicator - maybe you'd be better off with a woman!
• Flexible and can compromise - as long as he's bendy!
• Sophisticated - well educated, well traveled, has been around - I think the well traveled and well educated options are good.
• Over 5'10" but under 6'0" - as long as he's taller than me, it's all good.
• Has a full head of hair (wavy and dark would be nice - no blonds) - I actually don't mind bald guys, and have lately been attracted not only to blonds but rangers as well.
• Has shared political views - this is a good one.
• Is not into sci-fi or comic books - this could be a problem because actually don't mind a bit of sci-fi or comic book movies.
• Has good taste/sense of aesthetics - well if he's going out with me he obviously has good taste!
• Health-conscious and physically fit - I agree with this one - but not if he tries to make me exercise.
• Cares about the community at large - and is attempting to achieve saint-hood.
• Cares about animals - this is a good point.
• Competent - well you definitely don't want him to be incompetent.
• Handy around the house - yep, I need this one.
• Cooks - as long as he can look after himself and not starve, that's good enough for me.
• Likes the outdoors (hiking, biking, Rollerblading) - I guess this would be good.
• Likes my friends (and I like his) - this is a fairly good one as well, I wouldn't want his friends to be jerks.
• Not moody - yeah, I'm moody enough for the both of us.
• Trustworthy - would I be dating him if he wasn't?
• Is a team player - are we on a team?
• Is literary and enjoys wordplay - 'wordplay' like scrabble!?!
• Is math or science oriented - I thought she wanted someone creative?
• Likes discussing (but not arguing about) world politics and world events - this would be good, although I don't mind a good argument.
• Stylish - nah, I'm stylish enough for the both of us.
• Not a slob - this is an important one.
• Is madly in love with me - yep, I want this. I want a guy to sweep me off my feet!

Isn't this the longest list ever! And so specific! With a list like this I'm not surprised that she struggled to find a man. And the next time someone says that I'm too fussy I'm going to show them this list - there are things I here that I would never have thought of, and that I wouldn't event bother thinking of.

I'm sure that this book will continue to inspire me to write more posts, so stay tuned.