date was a bust

So it turns out after all of my stress yesterday I can probably put the date into the category:
"He doesn't like me"

Everything was fine during the date. We were chatting, laughing. No awkward silences and he didn't say anything to annoy me. He is maybe a little full of himself (but apparently that is a common trait for an economist).
But then the end of the date comes, we go to the counter to pay and I pull my purse out. I'm waiting for the "oh don't worry, I've got this", but as I'm pulling money out of my wallet and the waitress is taking it I realise that it isn't coming. And obviously, he's just not that in to me.
We stand outside the cafe where he says "It was nice to meet you" (a dismissal if ever I've heard one), and I just said "yep, good to see you" and then we walked our separate ways.

I would love to know if it was something in particular that turned him off. I obeyed all of my friends rules and so he shouldn't have been freaked out - I didn't even ask him if he was married! And I guess it's fair enough if he just doesn't like me. There have been plenty of guys that are nice enough that I just don't like. But still, considering he arranged the date and all of that I have to wonder what changed.
And during the date, when he was telling me how drunk he had been when we met, I said "I'm surprised you even remembered me to text me", to which he replied "well I always remember the important things". That would count as a good sign wouldn't it? Obviously not.

first date angst

My first date with the new guy 'Michael' is fast approaching. It is fast approaching because it was meant to be tomorrow night, but instead it has been changed to tonight.
This means that the carefully planned first date outfit, hair and makeup is not being used. Instead I'm in my standard work clothes (thankfully I made a bit of an effort today), and I'm riding my motorbike, which means that my hair is not perfect.
I am taking consolation in the fact that when he met me I was not looking my hottest. That is, I've looked hotter.

So after work tonight (well at 6, which means I will hang around work for a while) we will meet for coffee (well hot chocolate since I don't drink coffee).

My angst is as follows:
- What if I really am affected by ugly lights, meaning that in day light I look like crap?
- What if I really like him but he doesn't like me?
- What if he really likes me, but I don't like him?
- What if he is married?
- What if it all does work out? What happens then? Where does this lead?
- What if I spill my drink down my front?
- What if he stands me up?
- What if I talk to much?
- What if there are awkward silences?
UGHHHHH!!!!!!

the drought has broken

After at least a year of not one guy asking for my number, the drought has finally broken! Last week my valued wing-woman and I were shocked that we spent a fair amount of time flirting with some guys (I was flirting, she was supporting) and they didn't make a move or ask for my number. What's with that! So when I went out last night it was with the expectation that it would be a quiet night and once again all boys would be poo. But I was proven wrong!

Dancing away with my friends in T&G I noticed a guy through the crowd. He looks like (or at least has an air of) Michael from Grease 2 (see below). He was tall, light brown hair, button-down shirt unbuttoned enough to show some chest hair (my friends and I agreed that it was very 'manicured' but I liked it anyway!). He has a cute smile and even a chin dimple (slight, and discovered once he moved closer). He just has the clean-cut look about him, but as we know from Grease 2, the clean cut guys can become 'Cool Riders' and join the T-Birds!
So I smiled at Michael (as he will hence forth be known), and he definitely saw me. BTW, just so you know I had on a black short skirt, black heels, maroon top, the top half of my hair pulled back and my glasses on. I, naturally, pointed Michael out to my friends and one of the agreed that he did look like Michael from Grease 2. I noticed Michael talking to his friend and his friend then looking over at us.

So we kept dancing away, Michael made his way over towards us and then stood behind me. When someone walked past and luckily I had to fall back into Michael he made his move. And his opening line....."Do you girls work in the public service?".
Me: "No".
Him: "Because those glasses look nerdy"
Me: "I'm going for the naughty librarian look"
And from there we were off and running.

At one point I thought he was after one of my friends, which I resigned myself to but happily knew he would be disappointed since she has a boyfriend. But she maintains that she could tell he was always interested in me. He was a little random, asking how tall I am and being amazed at how tiny I am. He picked me up to confirm that I was tiny (he's 6'2", an economist and 32 years old).
Anyways, eventually he grabbed me for a bit of a 'groove/grind' (which I'm not really in to because I like to be able to dance normally without obstruction). Then I said "we're going to King O'Malley's now"....and he asked for my number!!
Wooohooo!!

Then we left and I let him kiss me on the cheek, to which he responded "You can do better than that" and he got a kiss on the mouth - but not a pash. I'm not going to give the milk away for free. And there was a couple who had basically be mating on the dance floor, which put me off any kind of smooching in public.

BTW - why is it when you only give guys a peck they respond with "you can do better than that". It's not the first time a guy has said that to me and I just think it is the weirdest comment.

I already received a message from Michael, at 5am saying "Sorry I didn't get back to you, my phone died". I responded this morning with "then I'm lucky you got my number before your phone died ;-)". We'll see if anything progresses from there...I'm trying not to get my hopes up since boys are poo, but we'll see.

the library

Today I re-joined my local Library. It turns out that I was actually still a current member, although I hadn't been there since 2004. I also had a current fine from returning some books late in 2004. The books were all politics ones that were obviously for an essay for Uni - damn Uni! You have cost me so much!!


But I have to say that the new Library (well I went to a new one, there are still plenty of old ones around) is quite fancy. There is a new self-check system that reads micro-chips in the books, so you don't have to scan them one at a time, and I do believe that the range of what the library carries has increased.


Today I borrowed Hell Island by Matthew Reilly as an Audio Book for my drive to Sydney this weekend. The book only goes for just over 2 hours, but all the other ones that were there go for over 10 hours! And since it's only a 3 hour drive to Sydney I figure I can mix the book with some music listening.


There is also this great system of being able to go online and request items. So I requested the latest Matthew Reilly book (I'm 70th in line for that) and 90 Day Geisha. I also have a list of other books that I want to read, so I'm going to use the 'My List' system they have where you can add heaps of books to your list and then request them when you're ready to read them. Then they ship the books to the library that you choose and off you go.


Really it's all very civilised.