it's your choice

The way that you react to certain situations is entirely your choice.

If your workplace posts a motivational sign, for whatever reasons, it is your choice to read it. It is your choice to react to it. I have one of these signs directly in front of me, and after I've read it once I barely notice it.

So it's your choice.

Do you want to look like this:

or like this:

not just sex, not hanging out or winging it

Finally I have met a guy who seems to actually like me and not want to keep me at arms length while playing the ever seductive withholding game. This should be a great change and I should be shouting from the roof tops, but honestly it kind of scares me. You can get so comfortable with a certain kind of behaviour, however bad it is, that any kind of change can make you uneasy.
I find myself thinking "wow, he wants to see me again", "hmmm, he didn't try and makeout with me on the couch", "he holds my hand in public", "really, he told you we were together?". These are all things that I'm just not used to!
I'm so much more comfortable with telling friends "oh, we're not serious. We're just hanging out", or "I don't know when I'll see (or even hear from) him next", and then watching him dart away if anyone ever brings out a camera.
But now I'm not sure what comes next, what I'm allowed to expect of him and what he will expect of me. Can I invite him to a work dinner next week, or is that too much? Do I introduce him as my boyfriend or do we still have to have that conversation? And do I have to stop dating other people?
It's all very confusing! I also don't know what I can ask him, and what I can't! Hmmm... very strange.

upcoming movies I want to see

The Expendables


The Other Guys


Vampires Suck - although I may wait until this one is on DVD.


Easy A


The Adjustment Bureau


Dinner for Schmucks

slow down, take it easy

On the weekend I went to the snow with some friends. While we were driving to the snowfields we came around a corner to see a car coming towards us and crossing over the lines on to our side of the lane. Luckily they corrected, but seriously they should just slow down!
Then when we were leaving we were over-taken about three times which is extreme considering the narrow road and the fact that we were doing the speed limit.
I know that the 'Speed Kills' ads don't work too well, but if you watch them all in one sitting, well they do make a difference. Watch this video and slow down.

safe and protected

There is something to be said for feeling safe with a man. Actually, not just safe but protected. That feeling that if something were to happen that guy would save you or protect you. Like when the car nearly hit Bella in Twilight!

It's the feeling you get when you're doing some kind of adventure sport and you know someone is keeping an eye on you.

It's that sense of safety when you feel strongly muscled arms around you.

It's the complete opposite to when you look at a guy and think "gosh, he would collapse under my weight!" or "he would never defend my honour". There was something to be said for a good old fashioned duel over a ladies honour.

Do you think that 'being able to rescue me' is too much of a princess requirement to put on you list of what you look for in a man? I worry that I may find myself torn between a man who could save me and one who couldn't. I have to admit that if everything else was equal between the two guys, the being able to rescue me would push one guy to the top of the list. But what if they can both rescue me!!

Is it too much to ask for men to compete in a series of physical challenges to win the hand of a fair maiden? I think my challenges of choice would be a joust and a caber toss!